Saturday in Warsaw

Well, Tom left early this morning... I'm trying to keep my happy face on so Hayden doesn't melt down. We told him last night that Daddy had to go to work and he'd see him in a few days, which technically is true. I'm not going to use the "Papaw" word until necessary! Hopefully not until Papaw is in the taxi on the way to our apartment!! Two is a tough age, Hayden is just beginning to understand abstracts, so things like "tomorrow", "after nap", "in a week", still don't mean a lot to him. But, so far, we're ok. Paulina woke up this morning in a wonderful mood - very smiley, and that helped a lot. It was pretty tough saying good-bye for four weeks... We didn't do a whole lot today because of heavy rain, but we did make it to the store with Paulina in the backpack and Hayden in the stroller. A few people looked twice, I haven't seen a lot of the Baby Bjorns and such here so I suppose I look a little weird with one in a backpack and one in a stroller. Oh well...

Paulina is taking 3-4 steps alone, but she doesn't like it, she just wants to be held a lot. The therapist told us to "make her" have floor time and work on the walking 3-4 times daily. But, wow, is she a Taurus! I already have visions of the teen years in our house :-) Anyway, we do it, sometimes with a lot of protests, but sometimes she forgets that she's protesting and enjoys. We have been to the playground a few times here and she LOVES the swings! She can sit by herself and balance while someone pushes the swing. She also likes the see-saw, as does Hayden. He spends a lot of time in the giant sandboxes, we're going to pick up some sand toys for him on Monday...

Not a whole lot new here, we are eating a little better - able to stock the fridge and have a real kitchen and table - so Hayden's off the popsicle/ice cream diet and doesn't seem to mind too much :-). Here are a few new pictures... Paulina is loving the baths, as long as Hayden is in the tub also. They splashed and played for almost 20 minutes this morning. She also found our map of Warsaw, unfolded and played with it for a few minutes, then she became extremely frustrated and it was a little funny... I got a little of it on video and I'm hoping the video posts. Connection here is pretty slow...

WARSAW!!!!!

This will be short because we were pretty late getting in to Warsaw... BUT - we had court today, which was actually quite a pleasant surprise... the judge was a very good-humored older man who insisted that we bring Hayden in with us (Paulina stayed at the orphanage because the car seat wouldn't fit in the car... we all rode together with the family from Florida). He was wonderful with Hayden and the whole thing only took about 20 minutes. Everyone was very, very kind and it was just such a relief to have it over with. We won't receive the final decree until the 21 day waiting period is over, but that's just a formality, the judge said, "she is your daughter from this day forward"... :-)

AND we are here, in Warsaw, in our 2 bedroom, 2 bath apartment with an elevator and air conditioning. I am so excited I don't even know what to do with myself!!!!

So, it's been a really long, emotional, but super happy in the end kind of day. We'll get pictures and some video online tomorrow... hugs to everyone!!!

48 hours until court... and move to Warsaw!

Some photos of Hayden and the latest Lightning McQueen fan...

48 hours left in Czestochowa!! Woo Hoo!! Actually, the last week hasn’t been that bad. The weather has been brilliant all but a couple of days, and we’ve walked and taken the train all over town. We bought Hayden a soccer ball last Thursday after the soccer game, and he “plays” with Daddy every morning and evening in the park. If we could keep him on the grass, this would be wildly successful… however, he ventures onto the stone paths and his knees stay pretty beat up as a result. BUT, he loves it and is actually getting to be pretty good at the dribbling. The soccer game last week was a nice diversion – Hayden lasted almost an hour, which might be a record, and Paulina was pretty content for most of that time as well. They had riot police in full gear (see photos) surrounding the visitors’ stands… and there were police everywhere around the stadium in general. It reminded me of an Aggie game – a bunch of guys all yelling in unison – of course, we couldn’t understand a word but some of the tunes were familiar (Oh my Darlin’ Clementine, etc). Anyway, it was fun and I think Hayden is hooked.

Paulina will take 3-4 steps by herself as of yesterday… we had been a little lazy on the PT the last few days so she’d started resisting any standing or walking, wanting just to be carried. We picked it back up on Saturday and by yesterday evening she was very excited about it again and would “walk” back and forth between us. I am trying to break the thumb-sucking… the therapist said this was ok to try. I brought a couple of pacifiers and am trying to get her to use them instead of her thumbs. The damage is probably already done to her teeth – she and all the other kids from her room have calluses on both thumbs and both top and bottom front teeth are separated and make a “v” outward from all the thumb-sucking. It’s a self-soothing mechanism, and given that, she’s actually letting go of it easily. She sort of uses the pacifier, but isn’t completely sold on it. We are up to 3 feedings daily with the spoon (2 sweet, 1 veggie – this one is unpleasant). AND, Tom even got her to hold her bottle last night (sort of, she at least would touch it and leave her hands on it, wouldn’t hold the weight of the bottle with them). She is still very, very easy as far as 1 year olds are concerned.

We have court at either 12 or 12:40pm on Wednesday (we have 1 appt and the Florida family has the other). And will drive immediately thereafter to Warsaw and “move in” to the new apartment. It’s a 2 bedroom (woo hoo!!) with internet IN the apartment. On Thursday we meet with the lawyer and notary to get some docs done before Tom leaves, then US Embassy so Tom can appear before leaving, then grocery shopping because Friday is a national holiday and “everything” will be closed.

We’re going to check into changing Tom’s ticket to depart on Sunday instead. It may be cost-prohibitive at this point, but it would be really helpful. Hayden is doing well, but it will be really hard for him (and me) from the time Tom leaves (5am Saturday morning) until Dad arrives (5pm Sunday afternoon). If we can’t do it, Magda will arrange for a “nurse” to help me with Paulina Saturday and Sunday so Hayden can get out and romp around a bit. We have decided to send him home with Dad on Sept 2 – Dad sacrificed his first class seat on his trip home so Hayden could fly with him – we are so grateful for this. Hayden is doing well all things considered, but is getting homesick and 4 full weeks without his Daddy would be too hard on both of them. So… everyone please send all your good karma and prayers to my dad, Papaw, on the 2nd! It’s his first time flying with a toddler in a number of years. Hayden is pretty good in general on the flights – but we’ve only had overnights until now. The flight home is essentially all day – they leave Warsaw at 6am and have to change planes in Amsterdam, then get home to Houston that afternoon. If he can get Hayden on the KLM flight to Houston, he’s home free! Hayden should crash for at least 4-5 hours after getting up so early.

We miss everyone so much – I wish Maddie and Roxy could read, because we miss them terribly :-) We did get a little puppy therapy yesterday at our local café – an elderly yellow lab was very cooperative and let Hayden love on him for a good 10 minutes (and us too). Hayden then got to play with the neighbor’s bichon frise in our parking lot. So, it was a good night…

Wednesday - Soccer tonight

Well, it’s Wednesday in Czestochowa and all is well. The temps have cooled off a little bit so we’re sleeping a little better. Our daily routine goes something like this…
7-8a Breakfast and lounging with the kids
8-9a daily trip to market for water, juice, milk, etc.
9-10a Tom goes to internet café to work and I play with the kids in the apt
10-1 Walk and do some sort of activity
1-3’ish Nap (Tom usually works and I either nap also or go for a run)
3-4’ish Movie on computer for Hayden, play and exercise for Paulina
4-7’ish Walk, play in park, KFC, run around park (Hayden is now running at a full sprint for 30 minutes at a time in the park. It’s great because he crashes around 9pm and sleeps the whole night, but it’s getting hard to keep up with him!!!!)
7-9p wind down with movie and go to bed.

Repeat daily :-) This morning we attempted to actually tour Jasna Gora, but Hayden and I were wearing shorts and shorts are not allowed. So, we instead explored the many, many souvenir kiosks along the streets surrounding it and picked up a lovely horse and cowboy toy set, circa 1950, for Hayden. It was the best $5 ever spent! He actually rode happily in the stroller all the way back to the apt and continues to play with them on the sofa. I think we’re on to something that might just change our lives. Last night after a really long walk (and 30 minute sprint for Hayden) through the park, we bought him a popsicle and were actually able to sit down and have a beer at one of the outdoor cafes around the corner. Astonishing!!!! Bribery… it’s the best thing ever!! Undoubtedly we won’t receive any “Parent of the Year” awards for this new technique, but we are in survival mode here and must do what works :-)

Here are a few pictures from our walk last night of the park and promenade. We’re going to a local soccer match tonight, taking the train and everything. It should be interesting… we were going to try and go to Krakow for a night or two, but because we don’t officially have custody of Paulina yet, we would have had to use an orphanage driver which was going to cost a small fortune and give us absolutely no flexibility. So, we’ll just make that trip later in our stay J The crowds are already starting to arrive here for the August 15 celebration at Jasna Gora. Every day there are parades of people making the pilgrimage from other parts of the country. I neglected to take the camera this morning, but there were several groups of high school age kids singing with guitars around the church. I’ll take it with me in the morning so we can get some video to post – very interesting…

Glad to hear Edouard (sp?) didn’t do much damage. BBC World gave it 15 seconds of coverage and said only that the storm provided much needed rain to “drought-stricken Texas”… pretty funny.

Well, we’ve made it a week… 1 down, 6 to go J I’ve decided to break the time here down into smaller increments:
9 days until court and move to Warsaw
2 weeks until Papaw arrives
4 weeks until Tracy arrives
I’m hoping this provides some relief from the homesickness…also, we’ve been told that Warsaw will have far more to do… more distractions equal less free time to dwell on home!! We’re still not sure where we’re staying, but there is another family here from Florida adopting a little girl from the same orphanage. They will be staying at the Residence 1898 in Warsaw and it sounds WONDERFUL!! All the comforts of home, plus privileges at the Hyatt pool. That would be a really nice change for Hayden. He misses swimming (and Maddie and Roxy, so he’s stalking every dog we come across… and there are plenty of them!).

So, for as much as I’m whining, Czestochowa is actually not that bad… our apartment is across the street from a wonderful, enormous park where Hayden plays every morning and evening. The park surrounds Jasna Gora, and they are having events almost every evening leading up to the August 15 Pilgrimage… concerts, etc. On Thursday they had a choir and marching band – Hayden was ecstatic, Paulina was a little overwhelmed. It’s hard to remember that so much is new to her, so things like marching bands are probably terrifying. She is such a good baby… she sleeps every night from 9pm – 7 or 8am, naps a good 2-3 hours around noon, very rarely fusses at all and if she does, she just wants to be held. We’ve been using the backpack to carry her around town and it seems to make her quite happy. We can literally walk around for a couple of hours and she just babbles away, no complaints. Hayden on the other hand has started wanting to be carried also… probably a little jealousy, totally understandable, but he’s a Big ‘Un and a little too big to haul around for very long. But as long as he gets a few hours every morning and evening to explore, he’s pretty happy also, especially for a 2 year old!! However, we are rapidly running out of things to do that will entertain the whole clan – there are a few museums that look interesting, but I can only imagine Hayden’s reaction!! Speaking of which, I really, really must know what these Europeans do to have such well-behaved, quiet children. Seriously, they’re all so damn GOOD. Even the other 2 year old boys… they just walk along with their parents, they don’t run yelling into the streets, they sit quietly at the cafes as their parents eat and drink. As if it wasn’t painfully evident already, our little banshee lets everyone within earshot know we’re American!!!! Ugh!

We broke down and ate at KFC last night – it’s at the end of the pedestrian mall, about a 25 minute walk from the apartment. So Hayden played in the playground along the way and then chased pigeons. Then we all ate a well-balanced meal of fried chicken, coleslaw and fries (no biscuits, sniff sniff). Paulina will eat the sweet jar food from a spoon once a day… this is an improvement over no jar food and no spoon at all. They were fed everything via bottle with a giant hole in the nipple. So soup, cereal, whatever, through a bottle. The fact that she’ll let us feed her anything with a spoon already is pretty good. We’re going to work on some of the veggie jar food next… although I can’t really blame her for not wanting it, it’s gross. Maybe we’ll cross that bridge once home in Texas, armed with a high chair.

That’s all for now, here are a couple of photos from the apt. Another note about Hayden... he's completely dependent on the bottle again - undoubtedly because he's seeing Paulina with it, so we're just indulging him while we're here. This is a lot for a 2 year old to handle, so if he needs the bottle, the bottle he gets. We keep forgetting to take the camera on the evening walks but will try to take some photos tonight of the park and pedestrian mall… it’s pretty neat.

Saturday in Czestochowa

So, I just spent the last 20 minutes typing 2 pages worth of updates, describing every moment of the last week, taking full advantage of my first minutes online in a LONG time, and somehow managed to erase every bit of it. !#$%^&**

Here's the condensed version, moved to apt on thursday after being in limbo from Monday-Thursday. We essentially got custody of Paulina thursday afternoon... with VERY little, actually NO ceremony. Originally the orphanage director, Bernadetta, was supposed to bring paulina to the apt Thursday afternoon... but Magda called and told me to take a cab alone to the orphanage and pick her up. So I did, one of the caregivers drove us back to the apt and dropped us and a Pack & Play at the front door. I think she said "bye". Paulina has been a trooper, pretty much as long as you hold her, she doesn't cry at all :-) However, after 2 days and 2 nights, she is starting to explore the living room and kitchen on her own, crawling over every square inch. She did this once yesterday evening for 20 minutes or so, and a couple of times today. She naps from 11-1 and sleeps 9pm - 6:30am, pretty much without waking. After spending more time with her, we think she is closer to 4-5 months delayed, but she is a sweetheart, and is slowly starting to smile a little bit and giggle (with a LOT of effort on our part).

Apt is very nice, new, but on the 4th floor (no elevator) and no A/C... since it's reaching almost 90 degrees daily... the afternoons are a bit steamy :-) But we're adjusting - we're directly across from an enormous park that surrounds Jasna Gora - TONS of room for Hayden to play and explore. He and Tom are troopers and are taking everything in stride. I am getting pretty homesick at the idea of having to stay another 6 weeks, but Tom tells me this usually goes away after the 2nd week... we'll see... I do now understand why no one here has a weight problem. You pretty much wall your as* off!!!! And no one but us seems to eat. Talk about feeling like a lazy American, but in all honesty, Europe is kicking my butt :-)

Here is a video of Hayden playing with his baby sister for the 1st time. And one of me at the orphanage on Tuesday... Please excuse our goofiness and the condition of the apartment. We're sort of operating in "do or die" mode, with no attention to grooming our housekeeping, actually, that's kind of nice :-) This is so much more of an emotional roller coaster than we could have anticipated. The experience in and of itself is filled with so many highs and lows, but add the language barrier, a foreign country, and nothing familiar, it's pretty tough. Don't want to sound like too much of a wimp... the time here will start to pass more quickly as we establish a routine, but it's more than we expected. Hugs from Hayden and holding Paulina seem to take the edge off, but it will be really, really good to get home. We miss everyone and thank you again, so much, for all your encouraging words and emails. Love, K

WOW!

What a difference 24 hours makes... after a long journey, lost luggage, an interminable afternoon and evening, a 10'x10' hotel room, and a late night trip to the Polish equivalent of Costco for a change of clothes for me (Tom's luggage made it, the bags with my stuff, Hayden's stuff and Paulina's stuff didn't!)... we got a good 10 hours of sleep and finally met Paulina. She is beautiful and so sweet. I'm not exactly sure how to describe seeing her for the first time, and can undoubtedly not even approach conveying it in words... but it was amazing, lots of happy tears and hugs. Hayden gave her a hug and kiss, a couple of times, he was super!

We spent most of the morning with her, playing in their "therapy" room, which was a large room with lots of gym mats and LOTS of toys, including a tricycle which was great for Hayden. We held her most of the time and she took a short nap on Tom's lap. She was super quiet and seemed wary at first, but VERY observant. When she woke up, I think she decided we were ok, she relaxed a lot and started babbling a lot and playing with the toys. She can crawl like a champ and wants to walk everywhere... she can't quite do it alone yet, but with even a few weeks practice she'll give Hayden a run for the money :-)

Nap time at the orphanage is 12-3, so we went back to the hotel to let Hayden sleep also. He has been a champ, by the way. When everyone woke up, we returned to spend the rest of the afternoon with Paulina. We stayed outside this time and she perked up even more. Hayden started running laps around the yard and she wanted to join… she can’t walk on her own yet but is VERY determined when you hold her hands.

We are unfortunately in a hotel right now, and the director at the orphanage will not allow her to go home with us until we’re in an apartment, understandable. So, Magda is working on it – hopefully we’ll be settled by tomorrow afternoon and she will come to stay with us on Wednesday. Fingers are crossed – it was really hard to leave her twice today… she cried, and we cried, it’s just tough to leave…

Going to try and sleep now – more later in the week. This silly blog thing is timing out when I try to upload photos so hopefully I can find a land line and get some on tomorrow...